Comments on My Merlot: What it's Like

Oh Kate - you make me want to drive up there and t...

2008-03-11T20:27:00.000-05:00

Oh Kate - you make me want to drive up there and take you out to eat, or to a movie, or just sit on the couch and chat about anything and everthing. I miss that we don't see each other all the time, to talk about the things we need to discuss. I hate that I feel so far away. I just read this and feel so horrible for what you are going through. I know so many people are praying for you and are here for you if you need anything at all. Please feel free to call upon any of us to help out in any way possible.
~Michele

Kate, You are an unbelievably strong woman. You k...

2008-03-10T14:24:00.000-05:00

Kate,
You are an unbelievably strong woman. You know, us Benders are that way. We all have our secret struggles that we sometimes feel are best kept secret, but knowing about my own struggles and especially the pain of keeping them secret, sometimes the connection to others who are supportive and caring is what can heal us. I love you, as many others do too. You have the support--its ok to use it. It took me a long time to figure that one out. Its ok to feel the way you do, its ok to not hide the feelings. You will be understood and accepted and validated by those who love and care about you.

OK. This is the third time I've attempted to leav...

2008-03-10T11:38:00.000-05:00

OK. This is the third time I've attempted to leave a comment. I'm beginning to get irritated. I guess I'm just too old to get this right the first time. I thought I had set up an account already, but apparently not. I have to tell you, Kate, my first two messages probably were worded a lot softer than this probably will be because now I'm pressed for time and frustrated.
My heart felt like it was breaking when I read your blog. The mother in me just wanted to bawl. Luckily, I was in my room and could. (It was my prep so no one could see me). Now, I'm in my second prep and had to teach a class in between when I started this. God does have a plan for all of us. We just aren't always patient enough to let it happen when it should. I can't believe that someone with the love you have to offer a child would be deprived of motherhood. God just wouldn't do that.
The pragmatist in me wants to suggest that you get a second opinion. If you want me to go with you, just say the word and I'll make arrangements. We live in a world where we're used to immediate feedback for just about everything, so that does have something to do with your frustration. Yet we also live in a world that can solve problems that were unheard of in my day of childrearing, so there are answers to be found.
Just know that I love you, both your father and I do, and please let us help in any way that we can.

Thank you girls, your words mean so very much to m...

2008-03-10T06:02:00.000-05:00

Thank you girls, your words mean so very much to me.

I love you guys!

I know I'm one of those that try to say the right ...

2008-03-09T22:32:00.000-05:00

I know I'm one of those that try to say the right things. So, I'm just gonna say I love you and pray for you.

There really aren't any words that seem sufficient...

2008-03-09T20:17:00.000-05:00

There really aren't any words that seem sufficient to use to comment on this post. It was beautiful. Heartbreaking. Honest. So completely relatable. I think you hit the nail on the head with how isolating struggling with ttc is. Friends and family always asking you about it, trying to console you...usually only making you feel worse, more broken. I want you to know that I love you and am praying for you every day. I wish I could give you a big hug right now and cry with you...cry for our would-be children.