Wow! Well, there went two months. The last time I was on here we were in the dead of winter. Today I look out my office window and our front lawn is more green than white. Although, in all fairness this only happened over the last two days. We spent Saturday romping in the snow, building a snowman, and pulling the kids around the yard on the toboggan.
So much has happened over the last eight weeks, good and bad, that I thought I'd catch you all up to speed with a good ol' bullet pointed list.
- Let's see....when I left we were heading off to a weekend at the water park (good guessing, btw). We went to the Wilderness with our neighbors and had a blast. They do this every year and invited us along, we'll definitely be going back next year. Although next year we'll go for two nights. We were trying to save some money but one night just didn't feel like enough. Saturday morning after we checked out of our room we headed back in for one last swim - not only was it totally crowded but we had to also keep our clean clothes dry and it was just very stressful for me. Then, when I went to change into my dry clothes I realized I forgot to pack myself underwear!! I stood outside the humid dressing room in full winter gear and was not very pleasant when Collin came out with the two older boys; "I forgot underwear," I complained. He looked at me and smiled; "You did? So did I!!" Soulmates, I tell ya.
- My cousin and her friend came to visit us for a weekend and we took them to a little restaurant down the road in this tiny little down and I think they might have been in culture shock but they were good sports (it helped that the pancakes were as big as their heads!) The boys loved playing with them and we made tin foil icicles and after the boys went to bed the three of us stayed up late watching movies.
- A friend invited me to join a Mom's group that meets every other Monday night; we're doing the Danielle Bean Momnipotent Study. This has been, hands down, one of the highlights of my year so far. Meeting new friends and feeling comfortable enough to open up about the struggles that we all face in motherhood....it has been just amazing. (Guess what, other mother's have a hard time keeping their house clean too! It doesn't make you a bad person!! Who would have known??!!)
- We hired a real, live baby sitter and went on a date!! Out to dinner with friends and then to the movie American Sniper. Six years of parenting and this was our first babysitter outside of Grandmas/Grandpas/Aunts and Uncles. The boys loved her and we can't wait to do it again!
- Had Frozen Pizza Night with our neighbors. Frozen Pizza Night is the best kind of night. Here's what you do: get two frozen pizzas and some beer/wine. Your neighbors bring over two frozen pizzas and some beer/wine. Cook pizzas, feed children, and then eat and drink until you regret it. There are no expectations other then that you'll probably eat too much frozen pizza. Unfortunately, I wasn't able to partake in the wine because I had a sneaking suspicion I might be pregnant.
- Two days later, find out we are expecting Baby Kono #4!!! We were hoping at some point the timing would be right to add to our family. The past few years have been....tough, for various reasons and it never felt like the right time to "try" to make that choice. But when God tells you it's time, it's time. We were elated!
- Maia chewed up our entryway rug and about 10 days later got really, really sick because a good 12-15 inches of it was stuck in her stomach. I took her to the vet where they did an x-ray that indicated a possible blockage in her intestine and, because it was late in the afternoon, we were immediately sent to an Animal Rescue Center about an hour away. She was getting worse and worse by the minute and when we got there the vet got her on fluids right away and then took her straight back to surgery. The good news was most of the rug was still in her stomach and the surgeon was able to pull it all out through her stomach without cutting into her intestine. Overall the surgery went as well as we could hope and she was back home with us three days later - with a nice lovely vet bill. She cost more than birthing 2 out of 3 of our kids! But, she's doing great now. Looking at her and her energy levels now I don't think you can even tell she had major surgery a month ago.
- The boys decided on pencil arrows as their Valentines this year. It required a little more work from Collin and I then I had initially hoped but they sat down and wrote out all of the cards and picked the colors for each of their classmates. It was fun to watch them think of each kid on their list and decide what color combination they would like best.
- On February 10th we lost Baby Kono #4. I don't really know how to put a miscarriage into words other than to say it was heartbreaking. I felt like I could literally feel my heart shatter inside my body. It has made for a very tough month filled with sadness and anger and doubts and questioning. It is much of the reason why I have not been here, or anywhere on the internet, lately. When you experience tragedy and loss your whole world stops and it's difficult to watch everyone else's keep spinning. I learned this after the fire and I relearned it again now. I'm afraid my silence has hurt people and I never meant for that to happen but I knew it was best for me if I stayed away for a bit. I needed space. I needed to think things through. I think I can honestly say I am feeling better now. The rawness of the emotions are better, it's all still painful, but it's better. I have more writing I plan to do on this subject but for the most part that will likely take place over on The Sunlit Path. I haven't been able to bring myself to put pencil to paper just yet, but I hope that time will come.
- Busha and Papa graciously watched the boys for us on Valentine's Day so Collin and I could attend a Marriage Retreat put together by one of the woman from the Momnipotent group at a nearby church. We had mass and then listened to a local couple (the wife is also in our group) speak about marriage and family. It was so wonderful; listening to Gary and Rose speak was so inspiring to us - I basically want to be them when we grow up :) Afterwards we all went to lunch and it was just a really, really great morning - a perfect way to celebrate St. Valentine.
- I went on my very first field trip with one of the boys! One of the most difficult things about being a working parent is not being able to attend these types of things. Hutt's 4-K class went to the Planetarium and he sat with me on the bus and held my hand and snuggled in when they turned out the lights. I'm so glad I got this chance to go with him.
- We had ANOTHER Frozen Pizza Night with the neighbors. I should point out that FPN is a winter activity but this coming weekend these nights will once again take place outside, around the fire. Yay Spring!!
- We went and saw a farm! It was a small hobby farm and we knew it would require a lot of work but we were hopeful. Hahaha. I'm pretty sure the words our realtor/friend said to us were "you guys would be miserable here!" Once we got on the land and inside the barn and in the house there, unfortunately, weren't many (any?) positive aspects about the place. It was a bit depressing but it's opened our mind to other Alternative Futures - including staying right where we are and starting our little farm here.
- We hosted another Essential Oil class at our house. I really enjoy having ladies (and gents! we had our first gent this time!) over to talk EO's. They have become a big part of our life and I love sharing our story and hearing everyone else's.
- My brother and his family came for the oil class and then spent the weekend with us. My parent's came up on Saturday and we spent the day pulling the kids around on the toboggan, having snowball fights, and building a snowman. The best damn snowman ever, to be honest; complete with girl scout thin mint cookies for his eyes and buttons and a beef jerky smile. It was a fabulous weekend with family and something we need to do more often. My favorite part was when my little niece came up to me with big brown eyes and asked, "Auntie Kate, can we stay another night?" Oh my gosh, heart. melt.
Annnnd, there you have it! You're all caught up!! Hope you guys are all doing well and enjoying the warmer weather. I had no idea how ready I was for Spring but yesterday Maia and I took a walk and it was hard to force myself to come back inside. With the snow melting we are able to see, once again, all the work we have to do in our yard and I think we're all ready to get out there and get going. Bring it on, Spring!